Dear online bully,
When you stand behind your computer screen you are so brave. You type away and use words that make your feelings and judgments superior. Just because you have your fancy laptop does not make your opinion greater than anyone else’s. You type your big words and opinion but not allowing others to share their own. You disable viewers response unless it has been emailed to you. Are you afraid of the remarks you may get?
Did you know that anyone who can navigate around a browser could Google simple words and find articles on the subject? Oh yes, so take the point of me Googling these simple teenie words to reveal a massive pile of rubbish.
Did you know that employers in this day now Google their employees or prospects? So if someone wanted to learn more about me they would easily learn about the past year of my life but now YOU have tarnished something so sacred to me?
Do I want the public to relate the degrading terms to my name? No. No one ever wants to feel degraded or filthy but you, you did. You made me feel like a tiny person who did a terrible thing. But don’t bask in your glee because that feeling washed over me within a few seconds. The next feeling was rage. How DARE you smear my name in the dirt, degrade my family and act as if Liam will be scarred for the rest of his life. How dare you not realize that Liam would not even be on this Earth if it wasn’t for my “beautiful hobby” that is deemed as an “orgy of maternal lust.”
Why yes, I always compared Surrogacy to an orgy. Yeah you hit the nail on the head.
But, I’m not you. I’m not tarnishing your name for the way you defiled me. I’m not linking the garbage that you have written with your first amendment right. I do not want to give you any more hold over me. I’m sure I have a following who would love to tell you how wrong you are. Which, on that point, I was not paid. If you or your readers would have read the article you would have seen the word uncompensated. I have linked the definition for you. I could go on for many different topics on your site, not just the one that is tarnishing my name.
So next time you want to compare surrogacy to glorified prostitution, learn your facts, do your research or maybe even speak to a surrogate. Remember, we’re real people not just the faces you saw in a NY Times article. We have spouses who supported us through our journey. We have children who are beautiful and will grow up to possibly Google their parent’s name. We have friends who sat with us while we cried, craved foods, or needed an outlet. We have jobs who may find these articles and possibly cost our careers or our spouses.
We have intended parents who can never put into words what we did for them. We have made parents, grandparents, brothers, sisters, aunts and uncles. We have made life and last I checked, you were just writing words.
Just remember we are actual people with lives.
Proud Public and Outspoken Gestational Carrier
something you will never take away from me.